Secrets to Discovering Your Personal Power
Empowerment is not something that can be done on the external through the wearing of gorgeous clothes, expensive makeup and having the ability to afford expensive dining and traveling. Those are external material things that are times used to mask the lack of inner power. However, empowerment means to strengthen you from the inside out. Abuse on any level, whether emotional, verbal and/or physical occurs when an individual is lacking in self-love and has extremely low self-esteem and having those feelings can wreak havoc on an individual’s mental state. Granted those feelings can be caused by a number of things, but most notably those feelings are stemming from unresolved childhood issues that are now manifesting themselves in the adult. When a man emotionally abuses his partner it does not mean that he is a jerk or (insert your choice of words). What it means is that he has unresolved issues that he may have unaware of or he had no idea of how to deal with it and it’s now rising to the top. After all, a man is not taught to talk about his feelings, so where would he have gone for help without thinking that he is a coward or worse, he is acting like a woman. Women, if you find yourself constantly being attracted to men with issues, start looking inward to identify your issues. No longer will you look at the man and blame him for his behavior because now you understand why you were with him. Your emotional state was similar to his.
Society has created a paradigm that tells women that they are the weaker sex and that they are no match for a man’s strength. In an overtly blatant sense, women and men are taught that the man is superior and the woman is inferior and she should cater to him. Look around and see how many magazines, commercials and other products that are on the market that focuses on women attaining a certain image just so she could appeal to a man. Now do the reverse. How many images are out there that speaks to a man regarding how to appeal to a woman? As a result, there are some women who do behave as the weaker sex. They depend on men for strength, support and guidance, why, because a man is supposed to be their head and he is the stronger one. While physical abuse can be deadly, there is nothing worse than emotional abuse. After experience the gut-wrenching, mind-twisting, sense-numbing effects of emotional abuse, the most welcome relief would be death. You would wish that the person would give one good hit that would put you out of your misery. Because death would be much more preferable than it would be to go through the internal turmoil. To avoid being treated badly, it is imperative for women to empower themselves. Yes, the same goes for men.
Always remember that like attracts like. You will not find an emotionally healthy individual with an emotionally unhealthy individual. This does not mean that you should be hard on yourself. Just know that you before you did not understand, but now you do and it will help to stop the self-blame and now you understand your behaviour and the behaviour of your partner. Do whatever is necessary to work on you. That may mean that you need to be single for awhile until you can get your emotional self in shape.
You create your own drama when you expect your mate, friends and family to behave in a particular manner. If they were not behaving the way that you want before, what makes you think they are going to change now? That’s for them to work on individually. You have a responsibility to yourself to create the kind of existence you desire. Yes, you maybe disappointing friends, family or your mate, but wouldn’t you rather be happy instead of being miserable because you are trying to make someone else happy? You were taught that to think of yourselves first is being selfish and that you need to think of others before you think of yourself. Do you realize that the very definition of what you were taught of being selfish is exactly what you are doing to yourself? Think about it, it is ok to be selfish to you but just not to others? That is the definition of madness. No wonder women are usually the ones putting out more of themselves because they were the ones who were brow beaten with the message to not think of themselves first because that would be acting selfish to others.
As women, you have the power to achieve any and everything that we desire. It is not ok to be able to run a Fortune 500 company but then go home and be abused by your partner. You are deserving of so much more. It does not matter what society tells you. Society is not living inside of you and feeling the excruciating pain that you are suffering thru because you are not allowed to really live your real self. When you lose yourself for the sake of your family, husband and children you are living a shadow of yourself. You are now cheating yourself and your family the pleasure of the real you. So how do you begin to empower yourself? You begin by doing the following:
Understand the meaning of life - Your Life:
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Identify your motivation, values, virtues, qualities and talents
Identify your motivation, values, virtues, qualities and talents• Create a personal mission statement
Create a personal mission statement• Bring meaning and fulfillment to your life
Bring meaning and fulfillment to your life• Experience more fun and abundance
Experience more fun and abundance• Make better and easier decisions
Make better and easier decisions • Develop clarity, passion and personal power
Develop clarity, passion and personal power • Uncover your essence and creative expression.
Uncover your essence and creative expression.• Anchor and live your life purpose
Anchor and live your life purposeEmpower yourself to build confidence in yourself and your self-esteem will grow thus paving the way for you to attract individuals who are also on your wave-length.
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